As of tomorrow I will be starting my 13 month better myself goal. Which means I'm going to make a effort to be nicer to people. SO before I start, I'm going to let out all my rude, offensive, insensitive opinions.
To parents :
I do not care if your baby is a week old, or 30 years old. You do NOT know every single thing there is about parenting. It just annoys people when you post constant pictures and explanations about how to do things. Yes we all know not to put windex in our kids food. We are all aware that babies go in car seats. We get it. Shut up about it. Also, YOUR way of parenting is right for YOU. Doesn't make it right all together. Stop forcing your parenting beliefs down others throats.
To people offering me repetitive parenting advice.
It is no secret that I do not take advice well, I do ask for advice from time to time but other then that, I'd rather not receive it. Usually I have no problem shrugging it off and ignoring you, but when it is repetitive things I get annoyed. Loganne is almost 16 months old, if I've never taken your cry it out advice, I'm not going to start, If I havnt taken your cloth diaper advice, or your baby food advice, your breast feeding, formula, teething tips, whatever else advice, I'm not going to. Stop bringing up the same shitty ideas over and over again. Once is enough. Drop it.
KEVIN and MYSELF are Logannes parents. US and only US are responsible for raising her, WE get to make the choices for her. You don't get to have a say in how I dress her, what I feed her, what I do with her, what I teach her, when I put her to bed, how I handle situations. etc. It is none of your concern. And frankly, no one even has the right to ask us how we do things, unless asking for advice. If you are part of our lives your only role is to enjoy her, laugh with her, play with her, spoil her. Not raise her. IF you want a child to raise, have your own.
Less parenting, more life -
Weight issues.
Anyone who has ever eaten with me has asked how I stay so skinny. It's not rocket science. Look at my plate. I have mostly salad on it. I don't eat desert. And I don't sit on my ass all day and eat cookies. If you wanna lose weight stop eating like a overweight person. You don't need to make a cake just because. You shouldnt be eating a tub of ice cream at nine o clock at night. And mcdonalds shouldn't happen every day.I get up. I move. I eat healthy. If you are sitting in front of me eating a bag of chips and complaining about how your pants are too tight, I will have no sympathy. Know why it's so hard to lose weight? Cause people try too hard to do it. You all go on these crazy diets and start insane excersize programs and get tired of it in a month. You don't have to join a gym and live off lettus. You can just get up and clean your house and eat a chocolate bar, just don't go crazy. 90 % rule - be healthy and active 90% of the time. Cheat and be unhealthy and lazy when you want to. Just not every freaking day.
Facebook
K. you're having a bad day. Fine. Call or text someone. You don't need to alert 900 people that someone just sneezed on you. Fuck. I hate facebook. I'm on it to share Loganne updates with her family. Other then that it's just a bunch of whiney people looking for sympathy. No one really cares that you don't want to work this weekend. I post things like how tired I am or something, and guess what, it gets no comments or likes, cause NO ONE CARES. Facebook is not your therapist. If you have something to complain about, I'm sure you have a friend or family member to talk too. If you don't then you need to get off facebook and go meet someone. Also - yeah yeah yeah. Kids are being bullied and animals are being abused. WE KNOW. Go do something about it, posting it on facebook isn't doing anything.
Self obsorbed people.
Yes. Everyone likes to talk about themselves and their kids. I do, you do, EVERYONE DOES. But that doesn't mean thats all you should talk about. Really, I don't care if you have a stuffy nose and your baby just smiled for the hundredth time today. I'll talk about you and your kid for a while, sure. I like to know whats going on in my friends lives. But every. single. day. all. day. is way too much. Theres other things in the world to talk about. And by the way, after I listen to four hours about what your kid did today, it's manners to ask about mine.
This one is EXTRA harsh.
If you are looking for kevin, wondering about kevin, wanting to make plans with kevin, have something to say to kevin, speak to kevin. I'm not your mediator. If you want me, then talk to me. But I'm not here to relay messages to kevin. Also - If I do something you don't like, remember this. Say it to me. You don't need to be texting/messaging kevin about me. Trust me. I have no problem "resolving" any issues you have with me.
Me being nice to you is a honor. Don't abuse the priviledge. If I find that you have said something about me, or treat me in a disrespectful way, do not be suprised and play victim when I am a total cunt to you.
Mind games.
I am very familiar with the "he said she said" talk behind your back but play nice to your face kind of games. It's a part of everyones life whether you want to admit it or not. I don't play these games. But if you want to start a game, I will play it better. Fair warning.
I've been extremely nice to people lately, more so then I should be. Lately I've taken alot of shit and I'm not thrilled about it. My next 13 months is about being nicer to people and being a better person. This blog post is so I can absolutely PISS OFF anyone who I should not have involved in my life, so you can all be offended and go away. If you so chose to stick around and I have offended you, then you are more then welcome to message me about this and we can absolutely go through every point I have made until we can hopefully resolve whatever issues there may be. Other then that, I'm done being nice to people who do not deserve it.
Friday, 30 November 2012
Thursday, 22 November 2012
Ambition.
It's quite often that I have days when I'm all like "woah man. life altering thought. I'm gonna change everything about myself and be better !" Then a few days go by and I'm like "eff it." WELL THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT.
At one point in time I was all bubbly and friendly and loved everyone....most of you are laughing right now but I swear it's true haha. Why I changed isn't important, the fact is that I changed. While I am impeccably happy with the person I am, I also enjoyed qualities about myself that I used to have. So over the course of this next year I am going to try to implement some of those old qualities. I'm not really going to "change" things about me - as that is not my goal. I'm more looking to enhance the good things about myself and make them more apparent to others. I will do this month to month. Since it is only November right now I will do a 13 month timeline. The goals shall go as followed
December of 2012 - I will ATTEMPT (this is capitalized because this is going to be a incredibly difficult thing for me to do, but it must be done before I am able to move on.) to stop focusing on how stupid people are and try to concentrate on the good things about each individual.
January of 2013 - Less sarcasm. This goes with the previous month, I will continue to use sarcasm as a form of good humour, I will be using it less in the form of making fun of people.
Febuary of 2013 - Another difficult one, as I am torn on how to accomplish this goal. As you all know I am an incredibly opinionated person, and I openly voice those opinions whether people want to hear them or not. I was not born this way, it's something I acquired throughout my life, and at certain points in my life it was absolutely vital that I voiced each and every opinion I had, now it's a way for me to fight with people as my opinions very rarely match other peoples opinions. My goal is this - I'm not going to change my opinions, I'm not going to stop voicing my opinions. But I am going to to hold back some opinions that I know will offend some people (an example is my opinion on abortions, it's a touchy subject, and if I know it will hurt someone or cause an argument I will simply hold back from blurting it out.)
March of 2013 - Argue less. The best way for me to describe my reasoning for this one is I like to be right. So if I can argue any point you make so I can be right, I will argue it. I'd like to stop this habit I need to learn to let-go of winning everything and just be comfortable with whatever people think or say.
April of 2013 - This may not make sense to alot of people, but I am going to start being mean. It doesn't always come across this way but often I feel the need to make sure everyone is happy, so I go out of my way to do things for them I don't really want to do. In other words, I'm going to say no alot. This is will be a drastic change for me as it's in my nature to generally go with the flow, which has been fine and usually is a good quality to have, but lately people have been walking all over me. When I say no, I mean no folks. This is not a goal I wish to keep forever, but I do need to implement it in my life. After I've accomplished it I will then work on finding a happy in-between.
May of 2013 - Talk less do more. I genuinely want to be more involved in worlds issues, I often say I want to donate to a cause, or volunteer for another cause. My goal for this month is to actually do it - not just say it.
June of 2013 - Talk more, do less. I need to figure out how to stop acting the most smart, the most funny, the most caring, etc. I want to talk more to show how I really am smart, and funny and caring and all that other good stuff. If I'm acting a way that people don't understand it doesn't do much good. But if I can make them understand things about me with my words, then I feel I'm moving in the right direction.
July of 2013 - Get more excited about things. the words "have to" show up in my vocabulary alot. "I have to put loganne to bed. I have to go grocery shopping. I have to check the mail." All incredibly simple things that most people would never think twice about - but the fact is these things are all I have in my life as a stay at home mom. Maybe something good will be in the mail. I GET TO cuddle with loganne till she is asleep. I get to go and pick out delicious things from the grocery store. Life should be fun, not a list of things I can't get out of.
August of 2013 - This is my birthday month, so I've decided to use this month to be less greedy. falling into the month of May, I'd like to do things such as ask people to give money to charities for my birthday, I want to compliment others more and make them feel special, and focus less on what it is I want.
September of 2013 - Back to school month. At this point in time (i mean right now) It's hard for me to focus on my career and educational goals, because money is tight and I have a young daughter and because kevin is in school. In September it is unrealistic to say I'll be done my school and working. But I want to have every plan and detail worked out for when I am able to start that part of my life.
October of 2013 - I want to use this month to find ways to improve my relationships with people, whether it is already a good relationship or not. Ie Kevin, my mom, my mother and father in-law, my brothers, and old friends of mine.
November of 2013 - Stop fixing things. I'm awful to bring a problem too because I need to fix it. I've never had the type of life to sit and just complain about something. I've always been in situations where I needed to fix it. I don't want to fix things anymore - the worlds problems are not MY problems.
December of 2013 - The final and most important month. I left this for last because at this time, it is the last goal I have for myself, and it is not limited to December of 2013, I hope this quality will go on through out my life, even if the others disappear again. I want to be more comfortable with me. I don't mean my body, or my clothes or anything like that, just in general as a person. I want to be happy with choices I make. With activities I do, things I eat, things I say, and everything else amber related. In other words, be more confident.
This is alot to cram into 13 months. And I'm incredibly stubborn, so to think I can accomplish these things in a month each is a bit of a stretch. I've timed these things in the months they are in so I can carry-on these qualities throughout the year and years to come. I don't want to promise myself to lose weight or quit smoking or something like that, that no one ever succeeds in. I want to really better myself beneath the surface and ultimately be the type of person I want my daughter to be. I welcome all to join me on these upcoming months and try to implement some of these changes in yourself as well.
At one point in time I was all bubbly and friendly and loved everyone....most of you are laughing right now but I swear it's true haha. Why I changed isn't important, the fact is that I changed. While I am impeccably happy with the person I am, I also enjoyed qualities about myself that I used to have. So over the course of this next year I am going to try to implement some of those old qualities. I'm not really going to "change" things about me - as that is not my goal. I'm more looking to enhance the good things about myself and make them more apparent to others. I will do this month to month. Since it is only November right now I will do a 13 month timeline. The goals shall go as followed
December of 2012 - I will ATTEMPT (this is capitalized because this is going to be a incredibly difficult thing for me to do, but it must be done before I am able to move on.) to stop focusing on how stupid people are and try to concentrate on the good things about each individual.
January of 2013 - Less sarcasm. This goes with the previous month, I will continue to use sarcasm as a form of good humour, I will be using it less in the form of making fun of people.
Febuary of 2013 - Another difficult one, as I am torn on how to accomplish this goal. As you all know I am an incredibly opinionated person, and I openly voice those opinions whether people want to hear them or not. I was not born this way, it's something I acquired throughout my life, and at certain points in my life it was absolutely vital that I voiced each and every opinion I had, now it's a way for me to fight with people as my opinions very rarely match other peoples opinions. My goal is this - I'm not going to change my opinions, I'm not going to stop voicing my opinions. But I am going to to hold back some opinions that I know will offend some people (an example is my opinion on abortions, it's a touchy subject, and if I know it will hurt someone or cause an argument I will simply hold back from blurting it out.)
March of 2013 - Argue less. The best way for me to describe my reasoning for this one is I like to be right. So if I can argue any point you make so I can be right, I will argue it. I'd like to stop this habit I need to learn to let-go of winning everything and just be comfortable with whatever people think or say.
April of 2013 - This may not make sense to alot of people, but I am going to start being mean. It doesn't always come across this way but often I feel the need to make sure everyone is happy, so I go out of my way to do things for them I don't really want to do. In other words, I'm going to say no alot. This is will be a drastic change for me as it's in my nature to generally go with the flow, which has been fine and usually is a good quality to have, but lately people have been walking all over me. When I say no, I mean no folks. This is not a goal I wish to keep forever, but I do need to implement it in my life. After I've accomplished it I will then work on finding a happy in-between.
May of 2013 - Talk less do more. I genuinely want to be more involved in worlds issues, I often say I want to donate to a cause, or volunteer for another cause. My goal for this month is to actually do it - not just say it.
June of 2013 - Talk more, do less. I need to figure out how to stop acting the most smart, the most funny, the most caring, etc. I want to talk more to show how I really am smart, and funny and caring and all that other good stuff. If I'm acting a way that people don't understand it doesn't do much good. But if I can make them understand things about me with my words, then I feel I'm moving in the right direction.
July of 2013 - Get more excited about things. the words "have to" show up in my vocabulary alot. "I have to put loganne to bed. I have to go grocery shopping. I have to check the mail." All incredibly simple things that most people would never think twice about - but the fact is these things are all I have in my life as a stay at home mom. Maybe something good will be in the mail. I GET TO cuddle with loganne till she is asleep. I get to go and pick out delicious things from the grocery store. Life should be fun, not a list of things I can't get out of.
August of 2013 - This is my birthday month, so I've decided to use this month to be less greedy. falling into the month of May, I'd like to do things such as ask people to give money to charities for my birthday, I want to compliment others more and make them feel special, and focus less on what it is I want.
September of 2013 - Back to school month. At this point in time (i mean right now) It's hard for me to focus on my career and educational goals, because money is tight and I have a young daughter and because kevin is in school. In September it is unrealistic to say I'll be done my school and working. But I want to have every plan and detail worked out for when I am able to start that part of my life.
October of 2013 - I want to use this month to find ways to improve my relationships with people, whether it is already a good relationship or not. Ie Kevin, my mom, my mother and father in-law, my brothers, and old friends of mine.
November of 2013 - Stop fixing things. I'm awful to bring a problem too because I need to fix it. I've never had the type of life to sit and just complain about something. I've always been in situations where I needed to fix it. I don't want to fix things anymore - the worlds problems are not MY problems.
December of 2013 - The final and most important month. I left this for last because at this time, it is the last goal I have for myself, and it is not limited to December of 2013, I hope this quality will go on through out my life, even if the others disappear again. I want to be more comfortable with me. I don't mean my body, or my clothes or anything like that, just in general as a person. I want to be happy with choices I make. With activities I do, things I eat, things I say, and everything else amber related. In other words, be more confident.
This is alot to cram into 13 months. And I'm incredibly stubborn, so to think I can accomplish these things in a month each is a bit of a stretch. I've timed these things in the months they are in so I can carry-on these qualities throughout the year and years to come. I don't want to promise myself to lose weight or quit smoking or something like that, that no one ever succeeds in. I want to really better myself beneath the surface and ultimately be the type of person I want my daughter to be. I welcome all to join me on these upcoming months and try to implement some of these changes in yourself as well.
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